When Parenthood Turns Partnership into Pressure - Why Emotional Labor Divides Us (& How to Heal Together) | Ep. 77
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Do you wonder if you’ve fallen out of love with your partner?
Is this more intense after kids?
When love starts to feel like labor, and home feels more like a to-do list than a refuge, it’s not because you’ve fallen out of love.
It’s because you’re both carrying A LOT - more than anyone can see.
In this episode we break down the silent struggles of parenthood:
the mental load, emotional labor, and invisible pressures that quietly reshape relationships after children enter the picture.
We’ll look at how mothers often carry emotional vigilance born from generations of conditioning, and how fathers quietly bear expectations of strength, provision, and stoicism.
Both end up exhausted, one managing life’s invisible chaos, the other crushed under invisible pressure.
Together we discuss how these unseen weights lead to disconnection and resentment.
By the end of the episode, you walk away with 5 small, but powerful recalibrations that help couples rebuild empathy, teamwork, and appreciation.
Because partnership isn’t about perfect balance - it’s about shared gravity.
Today we explore:
👉 The unseen mental load that drains mothers and fathers differently.
👉 How inherited family scripts shape emotional labor.
👉 Five daily practices to rebalance love and responsibility.
👉 Why appreciation, empathy, and rest are radical acts of repair.
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.
Clinical-Counseling Psychologist
Parenthood & Relationship Coach
www.markellakaplani.com
United States
